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Purity: it also involves your heart

17 Apr

Create in me a clean heart, O God,
and renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10

If you haven’t noticed, I’ve been blogging a lot about purity. You might be wondering why I’m focusing on this topic.

You see, I’ve had this book sitting on my shelf for quite a few years. It’s called When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric & Leslie Ludy. When I was a young girl, probably about 13 years old, I read Leslie’s book Authentic Beauty. It was a gift from my mom, and I loved it. But she also gave me When God Writes Your Love Story, and for some reason, I never got around to reading it. So instead of continuing to let it collect dust, I picked it up about two weeks ago and have been absolutely loving it ever since.

If you’re over 18, I know what you’re thinking. “I’m too old for this stuff. I already know about purity. Why would I read some childish book about it?”

Well….you’re wrong! If anything, this book is having more of an impact on me at 21 than it ever would have at 13! It’s never too late to learn what scriptures say on the topic. It’s never too late to let God have the pen of your love story.

So anyway, while reading, I pretty much just gave up trying to highlight and sticky-note the book because every inch of all the pages would be covered. (What’s the point of bookmarking or highlighting a whole book? In the end, if everything is neon colors and covered in sticky notes, nothing will stand out anymore. Lol.)

I’ll probably end up blogging about this topic, including the book, many many times. So don’t be surprised. And today I want to write to encourage you, even if you think you know everything there is to know  about purity, to bear with me and learn with me. Here’s today’s topic…

It’s not just about the physical

Often times, I think we place an invisible “physical” before the word “purity” when we’re talking about this stuff. But it’s so much more than that. (Although I am NOT downplaying the seriousness of physical impurity. Check out 1 Corinthians 6:18 if you don’t know what I’m talking about.)

In fact, another form of purity we should strive for is purity of the heart. Check out this quote from Eric & Leslie’s book. This is from a chapter written by Leslie:

In my dating relationships, I damaged my precious pearl of purity. I felt dirty and used because of it. But the damage didn’t just happen when I “went a little too far” physically. Giving away this treasure started the moment I gave away my heart and emotions to men who were never meant to receive that gift. I had been careless with my treasure. I had allowed my heart to become battered and broken.

I used to think that the unbearable devastation of “breaking up” with a boyfriend was just a natural part of the dating process. But there was nothing natural about it! It was a pain God never meant for me to experience. The valuable and delicate pearl of my purity had been ripped too soon from its protective shell, then tossed back, damaged and bruised.

What a way to look at purity! Maybe you’re reading this today and yes, you are physically pure, but you’ve been emotionally damaged in past relationships. Long story short, your heart has been ripped out of your chest. Maybe even multiple times.

Or maybe you’ve lost your purity both physically and emotionally. Or maybe you’re a guy, and you’re thinking, “this blog is for girls only.” Well, no, it’s not. It’s for you too, gentlemen, even though you’re not as emotional as we girls are. Think about it this way: do you think your future wife would want to know how many times you’ve given a girl your heart, aka, told her that you loved her? (The correct answer here is “no.” :))

No matter who you are, how old you are, what gender you are or how much of your “precious pearl” you have left, there is still hope for you. In Jesus. By the grace of God and through repentance, you can restore your pearl back to its original, natural beauty. Then I’d encourage you, if you desire to be married one day, to start praying for your future spouse and asking God to show you ways that you can honor that person (i.e. not prematurely giving yourself away, physically or emotionally) right here, right now, even if you haven’t met them yet. (Who else just starting singing Michael Buble in their head? Okay, nevermind…)

The story doesn’t end here. I want to share with you much more about what I’m learning concerning purity. But this entry is getting long, so I guess we’ll have to just wait…

Thanks for reading.

Jen

Someone’s gotta say it: purity is hard work

29 Mar

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Ever since last night I have felt a tug on my heart to talk about purity and walking with Christ in every aspect of our lives, including dating relationships.

I didn’t get a whole lot of sleep last night because of it. I went to bed later than usual and woke up way earlier than I needed to. I ended up praying about ways to pen the words I want to scream on the rooftops to all young people and all unmarried people. I want to do it with wisdom. And I don’t claim to know everything.

I also don’t claim to be perfect or sinless, but I do know that the bible calls us to purity in the scriptures, and that it is absolutely what we should strive for. I recognize that it is SO hard in our culture to stand firm when it comes to this topic. Movies, music, magazines, peer pressure and the Internet make it almost impossible to walk on a straight path when it comes to keeping ourselves and honoring our bodies as the scriptures beckon us to (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 is a good reference if you don’t know what I’m talking about).

I’ve talked with other Christians about this topic, and I’ve also done some observation. It is not my place to judge, so please don’t think that I am.

I just want to make clear something I truly believe in: although every Christian (and unbelievers as well) has their own boundaries and their own concept of what is “too far,” that doesn’t change what the scriptures say. The bible should be our primary source for knowledge and wisdom when it comes to this topic. Otherwise, we’ll find our selves excusing away our human desires, thinking that it’s okay to follow our inclinations because it’s “normal” or “natural.” And we’ll make mistakes. We’ll end up with regrets and scars. Paul didn’t write about sexual immorality, marriage and honoring God with our bodies just for the early church. He wrote it for us, too.

I’ve also recognized something HUGE when it comes to teaching young people about purity: we can’t just tell them they have to abstain and think it’s enough. We also have to make it clear that IT WILL BE HARD. But it is NOT “unrealistic.” Don’t mistake the word “difficult” for “unrealistic.” I don’t think anyone ever told me how hard it would be. Or if they did, I was too naive to accept it.

Young and/or unmarried people, I want you to know that it will be hard. I don’t just want to give you a sugar-coated speech about purity and stop there. I want you to know that it’s a battle and a fight. If you want to be like Christ, that includes every area of your life. It will be tough. But you CAN do it. Don’t just give up because you think it’s impossible or because the “Christians” around you are doing things that aren’t okay. It’s not impossible, I promise.

There is so much more I want to say about this topic, but I want to pray about it and seek the Lord before going any further. I hope that this is an encouragement to someone struggling today. Allow the Holy Spirit to convict you and don’t make excuses for yourself; you are feeling conviction for a reason. He loves you and wants the best for you. And there is always, always forgiveness because of the Cross. You are not alone and you don’t need to live in shame and darkness. There is hope and strength in Jesus…

Jen