“I hate being single” = “I don’t trust God”

4 Jul

It’s honesty hour.

Sometimes our culture just grieves me.

It’s relationship-focused and sex-driven. It’s disgusting. (I obviously don’t feel like sugarcoating today.)

What really bothers me is that I have seen and heard about so many people in my generation who absolutely abhor singleness (and even abstinence), as if it’s some sort of disease, disorder or curse.

But let’s just stop for a moment. Have you ever realized that singleness can be a blessing from God? If you’re single and reading this right now, are you willing to let God work in you, refine you and make you into the person you’re called to be (which, ya know, could be someone’s future spouse)? ‘Cause singleness is a great time for letting God move in your life and grow you spiritually. But you have to stop holding onto the mindset that our world thrusts upon us, which sounds a little bit like this: “I only have value if I am loved by someone else.” It’s a lie. The truth is, you are loved by God. That alone gives you value.

So honestly? I think singleness can be a gift. An absolute blessing, if we can simply trust God enough to let go. Long story short, to me, “I hate being single” is equal to the statement, “I don’t trust that God has very personally written my love story before I was ever born.” After all, God wrote each one of our days before one of them ever came to be (Psalm 139), so if your story includes marriage…well, God’s gonna handle that. Stop worrying.

And truthfully, if you’re running after every attractive person that crosses your path in an effort to cure yourself of loneliness, it may be true that you’re only looking to satisfy your own desires, which isn’t a great recipe for success when it comes to relationships. Nope. The Word tells us that love is selfless:

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

So I encourage you to start learning selfless love now. Start with loving your neighbor as yourself.

And one more thing.

Single does not equal unhappy. In fact, there can be a whole lot of joy in it when our focus is on Christ. And hey, it’s okay to get on your knees and pray for a future spouse. And wait patiently for them, if indeed that’s what the Lord has in store for you. In fact, I encourage it!

Be blessed today, especially all you single ladies (and gents).

Jen

14 Responses to ““I hate being single” = “I don’t trust God””

  1. cleansedbygod July 4, 2012 at 11:47 am #

    Would you care if I reblog this? I thought it was excellently written.

  2. Tony Puccio July 4, 2012 at 1:24 pm #

    Excellent Post!

  3. brianwilliamsen July 5, 2012 at 10:18 am #

    Excellent post. Well said and so true. It’s too bad more people don’t feel the way you do. Have a great day!

  4. myimmanuel July 5, 2012 at 1:02 pm #

    Amen! Great expression of thought and emotion inspired with scripture!

  5. Joey Coons July 5, 2012 at 1:15 pm #

    Reblogged this on joeycoons and commented:
    Great insight to relationships

  6. 8 kids and a business July 5, 2012 at 4:43 pm #

    Written like a true follower of Christ. Thanks.

  7. alwayzhis July 5, 2012 at 10:31 pm #

    WTG Jennifer! It is so obvious that you love the Lord and know His will for your life! If only half the young people I know (in and out of the church) would read this and seek the Lord–there may be hope for your generation!! Thank you so much for speaking the truth!!
    An old granny
    Stephanie

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